You know one of those times when you said something really stupid out loud and got schooled by someone?
A gentleman wrote a blog post titled :Woman ‘Liberation’ has only Caused Misery and had the naivety (lets call it that) to tag me, recommending me to read and applaud. Here is the post and my comments about it are posted later. I’ve purposely hidden his name and blog url because the purpose of me writing about what happened is NOT to shame him or perform social media lynching but to raise awareness about our ignorant beliefs.
Any person with enough knowledge would tag his post as sexist, racist and misogynist. The phenomenon of Western media quoting statistics of violence against women in the Muslim world and shaming them all as an oppressive community is not hidden. In Middle East and South Asia, they do the same, quoting filthy statistics of the West and condemning it as an outcome of feminism or as they like to say ‘allowing women to have a right over their body and life’.
What people fail to see is that violence against women is an epidemic, global problem. Being more religious or conservative doesn’t guarantee human rights. I did a post just yesterday titled
This post explains the research findings from Psychology why people like to blame the victim and create a false sense of security thinking this can never happen to them. This guy has this false sense of security that because he lives in a conservative environment, he is better off but he conveniently ignored what women in his family feel about feminism. Considering his opinions I doubt if women even have the liberty to THINK in his family.
Crimes against women are everywhere and competing on statistics is childish and useless. Stats must only be used to verify the magnanimity of the problem when curating solutions, NOT TO THROW ON EACH OTHER AS POOP! Even 1 RAPE IS 1 TOO MANY!
Instead of pointing and throwing dirt on each other and dwelling in the past, how about we start looking at our own misgivings and create a better world looking in the forward direction?
It is because of Muslims like this guy, the entire community gets a bad name. Muslims already are facing a war of their own with people of their faith because of extremists. And then people like him come out and say such things without even knowing what feminism is about to make all Muslims look bad. Like minded people on his blog praised his copy pasted statistics and what great points he made about the open culture in the West.
My question is – WHAT MAKES YOU THE EXPERT ON WOMEN’S LIBERATION OR WESTERN CULTURE?
I write about both these issues because :
1- I AM A PHD RESEARCHER WHO HAS READ ENOUGH SCHOLARLY RESEARCH ON THE SUBJECT.
2- I’VE SPENT HALF MY LIFE IN INDIA AND SAUDI ARABIA AND THE REST IN UK. I HAVE LIVED IN WEST.
3- I’M A WOMAN, SO BY DEFAULT, I KNOW ABOUT MY EXPERIENCES MORE THAN ANY MAN!
I really suggest that before people share vicious and hateful messages pointing fingers or disregarding any religion, culture, faith, orientation or race, please do one of the following:
1- READ AT LEAST 10-15 SCHOLARLY RESEARCHED ARTICLES ON THE SUBJECT (wikipedia and Facebook posts doesn’t count)
2- HAVE AT LEAST PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF LIVING IT OR WITNESSING IT BEFORE MAKING JUDGMENTS.
3- FIND AT LEAST 5 AMAZON BESTSELLERS ON THE SUBJECT AND READ THEM COVER TO COVER.
I’m suggesting this because I personally do this. A friend sometime ago asked my opinion about castration as punishment for rape. I said
“I don’t have enough information yet to comment on it. I have a book that I intend to read, its on my nightstand. Once I’ve read that and some other important resources, I’ll tell you what I think”.
“Whoa, I wish every politician and debater on those news channels had your approach”!
What I mean is that I’m not perfect but I’m ready to learn. I have an open mind and I learn about the subject before blabbing out ignorant messages without research based on personal biases.
Most importantly, I’m a proud Indian Muslim living in the West. I say that boldly on my blog.
But whether it is me being Indian or me being a Muslim, I never turn blind to the bad things Indians do or Muslims do and blame other countries and cultures, praising my own.
I am a citizen of this world and I respect other religions, cultures and nations equally. I notice that Indians have this habit of self praising ‘mera bhaarat mahaan’ and Muslims also have this self righteous attitude that only Muslims are going to Heaven and the rest of humanity is going to hell.
To such self praising attitude, I say – GET OVER YOURSELF!
- Travel to at least 98 countries (half the world) before you start defending India and claim that India is the best country in the world. And
- Muslims- In The last Khutbah our beloved Prophet Mohammad (May Peace Be Upon Him) said: All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.
So, Islam and our Prophet wanted Muslims to have an open mind and promote equality instead of this self righteous behavior. Praying 5 times a day and raping your wife doesn’t make you a contender for PARADISE!
Enough of this for now, please read my comments that I shared on his blog and that I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t dare to moderate.
East is not better/worse than West
Christianity is not better/worse than Islam
Men are not better/worse than women.
Each individual is the master of their own actions that either are respectful or disgraceful.
WORLD PEACE and EQUALITY is what I want,
can you give me that?