Hi sweet readers, today I have a juicy award announcement for you all.
You all know that a stalker is like the unwanted element in your life that you just don’t want to think about. But when the stalker approaches you in the form of a friend and you just never imagine this person to make a move on you and then he does and you tell him that it’s not happening and he takes rejection like a 3 year old kid (only the stalker harasses and abuses violently…) then what.
Have you seen movies where one second the guy is all knees down, totally in love with the girl and the next minute as she refuses his proposal, he is threatening to spill acid on her face?
This guy is a slight version of that film. A friend from high school who keeps making a move, and then I keep explaining that I don’t like him that way and then he refuses to understand until I get totally pissed off.
This is a decade long story, if I start to tell you from the beginning, this post will turn into an Indian TV Soap Opera.
But there are two super cliche things that happened this time which I wanted to share with you all;::
1- When the woman talk intelligently and question such men back, they instanly call her crazy, lonely, depressed, moron and
2- Guys who see women living a happy independent life on their own (without needing a man, specially not them), will go tooth and nail to suggest that she needs to ‘get married’ because she has a missing element in her life.
The same guy, who thinks of himself as some sort of expert on women, also recommended few days ago that I should relax because my articles and blogs are about serious issues around women’s lives. (Referring to my post in the Telegraph about the murder of Qandeel Baloch).
According to him, women writing fiction love stories and other romantic stuff are happy and likeable while women writing on serious nonfiction stuff are somehow in trouble.
time and again I face this harassment from people I know. They see me succeeding, my voice being heard in international media, my books being read by women facing hardships and my personal one-to-one HEART CHATS with any person who needs some advice or just a friend to talk to.
These people see me happy, content, truly peaceful in my zone. AND THEN THEY RECOMMEND I GET MARRIED.
Why such people don’t feel ashamed that this is NOT THEIR BUSINESS?
WHO ARE THEY TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE?
WHY DON’T THEY QUESTION THEIR STATUS BEFORE ASSUMING THEIR ADVICE IS NEEDED AT ALL?
I blocked this person from my life years ago.
And then in 2-3 years he would find me on some social media and get in touch.
And since I’m busy building my life and have totally moved on from his last idiotic thing, I would forgive him for old times sake and ask him how things were.
And within a week he would again make a move. I would then block him.
This has been happening for a decade plus now. Fortunately I’m not in the same country.
He also spread rumors in my school community that we dated back in school. What a loser! I just feel pity for him and more for his wife. Poor woman, how is someone ever going to put up with his bi-polar personality; one minute ‘Harry Met Sally’ and next minute, ‘Texas Chainsaw Massacre.’
Anyways, my STALKER OF THE DECADE AWARD TOTALLY GOES TO HIM.
Please find his conversation below and see how his motives change.
Also, please comment below and share your stalker stories and raise awareness about ‘friends-turned-stalkers’.
Peace out friends!