My Stalker Of The Decade Award Goes To This Guy

Hi sweet readers, today I have a juicy award announcement for you all.

You all know that a stalker is like the unwanted element in your life that you just don’t want to think about. But when the stalker approaches you in the form of a friend and you just never imagine this person to make a move on you and then he does and you tell him that it’s not happening and he takes rejection like a 3 year old kid (only the stalker harasses and abuses violently…) then what.

Have you seen movies where one second the guy is all knees down, totally in love with the girl and the next minute as she refuses his proposal, he is threatening to spill acid on her face?

This guy is a slight version of that film. A friend from high school who keeps making a move, and then I keep explaining that I don’t like him that way and then he refuses to understand until I get totally pissed off.

This is a decade long story, if I start to tell you from the beginning, this post will turn into an Indian TV Soap Opera.

But there are two super cliche things that happened this time which I wanted to share with you all;::

1- When the woman talk intelligently and question such men back, they instanly call her crazy, lonely, depressed, moron and

2- Guys who see women living a happy independent life on their own (without needing a man, specially not them), will go tooth and nail to suggest that she needs to ‘get married’ because she has a missing element in her life. 

The same guy, who thinks of himself as some sort of expert on women, also recommended few days ago that I should relax because my articles and blogs are about serious issues around women’s lives. (Referring to my post in the Telegraph about the murder of Qandeel Baloch).

According to him, women writing fiction love stories and other romantic stuff are happy and likeable while women writing on serious nonfiction stuff are somehow in trouble.

Friends,

time and again I face this harassment from people I know. They see me succeeding, my voice being heard in international media, my books being read by women facing hardships and my personal one-to-one HEART CHATS with any person who needs some advice or just a friend to talk to.

These people see me happy, content, truly peaceful in my zone. AND THEN THEY RECOMMEND I GET MARRIED.

Why such people don’t feel ashamed that this is NOT THEIR BUSINESS?

WHO ARE THEY TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO WITH MY LIFE?

WHY DON’T THEY QUESTION THEIR STATUS BEFORE ASSUMING THEIR ADVICE IS NEEDED AT ALL?

I blocked this person from my life years ago.

And then in 2-3 years he would find me on some social media and get in touch.

And since I’m busy building my life and have totally moved on from his last idiotic thing, I would forgive him for old times sake and ask him how things were.

And within a week he would again make a move. I would then block him.

This has been happening for a decade plus now. Fortunately I’m not in the same country.

He also spread rumors in my school community that we dated back in school. What a loser! I just feel pity for him and more for his wife. Poor woman, how is someone ever going to put up with his bi-polar personality; one minute ‘Harry Met Sally’ and next minute, ‘Texas Chainsaw Massacre.’

Anyways, my STALKER OF THE DECADE AWARD TOTALLY GOES TO HIM.

Please find his conversation below and see how his motives change.

Also, please comment below and share your stalker stories and raise awareness about ‘friends-turned-stalkers’. 

Peace out friends!

This is The Reason Why Child Abuse Prevails, Specifically in Indian Homes

As a Feminist, I’m often blamed to be biased towards women and many people go as far as calling me a ‘man-hater’. If you are a regular reader of my blog, you would know that I extensively criticise women who perpetuate violence. And I want to say this at the top of my lungs that WOMEN CAN BE ABUSERS TOO!

Here is a recent conversation with a friend on Facebook that shook me to my core.

In English it means that a mother’s hand is like the F5 button on the keyboard; one tight slap on the child’s face, and the child gets refreshed!

Naturally, I had to speak.

As you can see, he thinks every mother has the RIGHT TO ABUSE HER KID.

This person is so blinded by the 1800 century teachings that say parents are to be worshipped, that he fails to recognize that children have any HUMAN RIGHTS at all.

So just because I give birth to a child, means I can beat the child, sell the child to human traffickers, sell their kidnies and do whatever I want, right?

This is the reason why VIOLENCE PREVAILS in our society. People kill each other for Rs20 and we wonder why such trivial conflicts end up in murders. Remember that children only copy their parents.

There are mothers who sell their children and there are mothers who force their daughters to be in violent marraiges just for the sake of keeping their honor (so called) in the society.

Every human being has the capacity to be evil and being a mother does not exempt that.

Child abuse is a cycle; when a child gets beaten up they learn that violence is the answer to correct behaviour and when they grow up they beat their own kids and men beat their wives because that’s what they learn. Violence is a learnt behavior…and kids learn that from parents and teachers… and before you make claims like this that mother can beat up a child, and ignore the human rights of a child, please educate yourself firsthttp://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/costs.html

Just look at the face of the child in that photograph. I don’t understand how is that funny? Beating up a powerless child…

Friends, in order to make changes in the society, we must first break out of our shell of self praise and recognize what problems exist that are ruining our homes. We need to see how we consistently neglect our mistakes in parenting.

Unless you recognize that beating anyone up, including your own children is a crime, you can never expect such practices to end. 

And when you do spot someone abusing a child or promoting it, please please please, I beg you to speak up.

Even in public if you see someone beating up their kid, please interrupt and if things go too far, then inform the police.

Being parents is NO excuse for violence. You don’t OWN your kids. They are not your slaves.

I know it’s hard for Indian parent’s specifically to see their children as separate human beings and not just their controlled monkeys.

Nevertheless, even the tiniest of baby is a person and his/her HUMAN RIGHTS are far more important than one parent’s control issues!

Long live human rights!