It takes a lot of anger and outrage to yell at someone “you’ll die alone”.
I have had my moments of rage, sparsely scattered throughout my small life but I have never ever hated anyone that much to say such a mean and cruel thing to someone.
Today I did, however, break my rule and said it. And I am not sorry at all and the reason I am sharing this with you over a blog post is:
1- Misplaced blame makes you say things you never thought you’d say.
2- Once an abuser, always an abuser.
So, let me cut the suspense, if you are a regular reader of my blog, you know this guy.
He got married about 10 months ago. For some weird reason, he contacted me on my work email from his work email to tell me about that and asked me to speak to his fiancee. I asked him why and he never had a proper response but he kept insisting that I just introduce myself to her as a friend. I didn’t.
Last month, I got an email from him saying he was very depressed and in a lot of trouble.
I got worried and asked what was up.
Drunk as he usually is, he blurted a lot of bullshit about him loving me and all. And then he insisted again that I talk to his wife.
It was the middle of the night in India. I was confused, why would I talk to his wife.
Then he revealed a little.
He said that she and he had a fight and she was in the room either sleeping or pretending to be asleep. He asked me to talk to her and calm her down or something.
This was all totally weird but considering how some strange woman was locked up in a room with this psychopath, I really got worried about her.
I instantly told her that it was not my place to say anything but if she isn’t alright, she could share. That night our talk did not go too far but I got the jist of it.
He is a drunkard, abusive, narcissistic asshole who is beating his wife since day 1 of their honeymoon.
The next day she got in touch with me privately and told me several other dirty secrets of his house that I as a friend never knew obviously. But those were the things about his background, why he has become such an asshole and the role his parents have played in making him that misogynistic monster– all credit of which goes mostly to his mom.
My heart broke into a million pieces listening to her pain. Ultimately she asked, what should she do. She was at her parents home that night because the fucker had fractured her wrist in the fight from last night.
I suggested what any sane, logical person would. Either seek professional help, set boundaries, give him a deadline to control his alcohol and abuse OR simply walk away from a marriage that is literally breaking her bones.
Through these last couple of weeks, she gave him chances and he has failed to keep his promises for more than 120 minutes!!! That is how long-lasting his sanity is.
Anyway, the reason that blew the handle and made me say the worse of things is because of what happened last night.
At about wee hours of the morning, Indian time, he was calling me.
Look how he is attacking me ‘teaching his wife’.
My DP these days btw is about divorcing in order to not set a wrong example of marriage in front of your kids…Something like that. It pissed him off as expected although it was not directed at him.
The audio I forwarded him is the one in which he was blurting out that he loves me.
These images fully opened are below once this conversation finishes.
I feel weird now but I totally lost it when he tried to blame me for trying to create a rift between his wife and him and now that I encouraged his wife to stand up for her rights, he is attacking me saying my intention is wrong.
I had no faith in him and never expected any sense of decency from him anyway. But the only reason I spent my time speaking to his wife is that I can empathize with that poor woman trapped with him in this abusive marriage.
And this is the second woman whose cries I have heard this past week who is being abused by her husband.
Should I feel sorry for these abusive morons who abuse these innocent women?
Nope. I don’t.
I really never thought I would ever say “you’ll die alone” and other mean things I said above… but this was the height of my patience.
I have tolerated a lot of BULLSHIT from this moron in the past that I have shared in the blog and video, but the most I did then was just BLOCK HIM.
But getting to know how he is abusing his innocent wife, I cannot ignore his stupidities and simply block him without giving him a piece of my mind.
BTW below are the images I reminded him of who is in love with whom.
Turns out, once an abuser, always an abuser. And that marriage and commitment do not change violent, abusive men.